A DKS Institute Method
Visualize My Birth®
Changing the Way Women Prepare for Birth
“Transform fear into confidence and step into your birth prepared, peaceful, and empowered.”
Birth is one of the most sacred and transformative experiences of a woman’s life — a rhythmic unfolding guided by the innate wisdom of her body, inviting her to embody her strength, trust her intuition, and surrender to her inner knowing.
The story Behind
Visualize My Birth®
Visualize My Birth® began long before it had a name.
With my first son, I did everything I thought I was supposed to do. I took the classes, read the books, prepared for an unmedicated birth, and trusted that I was ready. I labored naturally to 10 centimeters before my son’s leg presented and I was rushed into an emergency cesarean.
I couldn’t stop thinking about birth after that.
Not because I believed I could have controlled what happened—I couldn’t. But because I realized how much I had prepared for labor without ever truly preparing my mind for birth.
Years later, the idea for Visualize My Birth® came to me in a series of dreams.
I saw a completely different way of preparing women for birth. Visualization. The subconscious mind. Mental rehearsal. A woman’s own voice. The nervous system. Birth physiology. Preparing so intentionally that when birth began, the mind and body had already practiced meeting it.
I saw it before I ever lived it.
For years, I quietly studied, created, and practiced what would eventually become Visualize My Birth®. And with my third and fourth births, I became my own first student.
I visualized those births in remarkable detail. I mentally rehearsed them again and again.
Then I lived them.
My last two births unfolded almost exactly as I had visualized. Both were approximately two hours long, and at 43 years young, my fourth birth was peaceful and pain-free.
I remember being in that birth and realizing:
I’ve been here before.
I had seen it. I had rehearsed it. My mind knew this place.
That was when I knew Visualize My Birth® was no longer simply an idea that had come to me in a dream.
It was something I had created, practiced, and lived in my own body.
Now, I am finally ready to share it with you.
I dreamed it. I created it. I lived it. Welcome to Visualize My Birth™.
— Kimberly
The first birth
The birth I didn’t expect
I know what it feels like to walk into birth with fear, unanswered questions, and a plan that unfolds very differently than expected.
My first birth started exactly as I had hoped — unmedicated and progressing beautifully. By 10 centimeters, my son’s leg presented, and in an instant, everything changed.
“What I can only describe as a natural birth gone wild ultimately ended in an emergency Cesarean. That experience changed me forever.”
Instead of allowing fear to define my future births, it ignited a journey to better understand birth physiology, the nervous system, and the incredible design of a woman’s body — the way it is designed to open, release, and bring life forward with intention and power.
The journey
From fear to understanding
That journey led me to experience three peaceful, unmedicated VBAC home births. I visualized my third and fourth births in remarkable detail, and they unfolded almost exactly as I had envisioned.
Visualize My Birth® came to me in a series of dreams. Over the years that followed, I began creating what would eventually become this program—studying, preparing, practicing, and ultimately experiencing it myself through my last two births. What began as something I could see so clearly in my dreams became something I lived in my own body.
“My last two births were just two hours long. My fourth was a peaceful, pain-free birth — an experience that felt deeply aligned, intuitive, and almost otherworldly in its calm.”
Today, I’m the mother of four beautiful children — and those births are the heartbeat behind everything at Visualize My Birth®.
A peaceful, pain-free
Home Birth at Age 43
“My fourth birth was peaceful and pain-free — an experience that felt deeply aligned, intuitive, and almost otherworldly in its calm.”
Meet Kimberly
Dr. Kimberly Spair
Professionally, I’m a licensed Speech Pathologist, board-certified Holistic Health Practitioner, and founder of DKS Institute for Holistic Wellness. For years, I’ve supported thousands of women and families through pregnancy, postpartum, feeding, and holistic wellness while continuing to study the physiology of birth.
My own healing journey was profoundly shaped by the information shared by Anthony William, the Medical Medium®. His work transformed my health and gave me the opportunity to experience motherhood in ways I once feared might never be possible. As I healed, became a mother of four, and continued my education and clinical work, my passion for supporting women through pregnancy, birth, postpartum, and feeding continued to grow. Those experiences—both personal and professional—ultimately inspired the creation of Visualize My Birth®.
But more than any title, I’m a mother who has lived both sides of the birth experience and has come to deeply trust the body’s design, its intelligence, and its ability to guide us when we learn to listen.
the path
Birth is something we can train for
Visualize My Birth® was born from the belief that birth is more than a moment. When a woman trains her mind, understands her body, calms her nervous system, and intentionally visualizes the birth she hopes to experience, she begins to move with birth instead of against it.
She softens into the process, trusts her body’s rhythm, and steps into birth with a grounded, instinctive confidence.
The experience
Choose your path
Whether you’re preparing for your own birth or you’re a practitioner supporting women on their journey, there is a program for you.
For moms
Visualize My Birth®
The original Visualize My Birth™ experience. Guided visualizations, affirmations, personalized audio recordings, mental rehearsal, and nervous system-centered practices designed to help you mentally and emotionally prepare for the birth you envision…
For moms
Visualize My Birth® Complete
A comprehensive birth preparation program designed to help you approach birth with confidence, knowledge, and intention. Explore birth physiology, mindset, nervous system preparation, partner support, postpartum planning, and the complete Visualize My Birth™ experience through educational lessons, guided visualizations, and practical tools…
For practitioners
Visualize My Birth® Provider Certificate
Earn your Visualize My Birth™ Provider Certificate through DKS Institute and learn Kimberly’s proprietary educational framework. Designed for moms, holistic health practitioners, doulas, childbirth educators, nurses, midwives, lactation professionals, chiropractors, pelvic floor professionals, and other birth and wellness professionals…
“I finally feel confident supporting pregnant women naturally. Kimberly’s teachings filled in the gaps no one else addressed.” ~ Jess
a guided journey
The Visualize My Birth® Method
Visualize My Birth® is more than birth education. It’s a guided journey that prepares your mind, body, and nervous system to approach birth with confidence, trust, and intention.
Through this unique experience, you’ll move from:
Feeling influenced by fear-based messages to making informed decisions with confidence, joy, and a deep sense of inner peace.
Feeling overwhelmed and uncertain to feeling calm, confident, and deeply connected to your body’s natural ability to birth and heal.
Fearing the unknown to embracing pregnancy and birth with clarity, trust, and a grounded sense of peace.
Feeling anxious or alone to feeling supported, empowered, and equipped with practical tools that nurture you throughout pregnancy, birth, and postpartum.
Questioning your body’s wisdom to recognizing and trusting the innate intelligence designed within you to conceive, birth, and recover.
If you’re navigating fertility struggles or seeking a holistic path to motherhood, I see you — and I’m here to walk with you. I also work with moms and moms-to-be inside my Fertility, Pregnancy, and Postpartum Support Package. I’ve supported pregnant women, those trying to conceive, and moms all over the world. Booking this package includes priority scheduling when available.
Visualize My Birth™
Frequently Asked Questions
Explore answers to some of the most common questions about the Visualize My Birth® approach and what you can expect.
No. Visualize My Birth® is not meditation or hypnosis. It uses Guided Mental Rehearsal™ to help you intentionally prepare how you want to think, feel, respond, and experience birth—then trust yourself, follow your Birth Rhythm™, and surrender to the birth that unfolds.
You do not need to sit perfectly still, cross-legged on the floor, or inside a completely quiet room. You do not need to clear your mind, enter a hypnotic state, or be someone who is naturally good at meditating.
Visualize My Birth was created for real mothers living real lives—including busy mothers and women who feel too restless or anxious to sit and meditate. You can practice while resting, walking, folding laundry, washing dishes, or moving through your day. If faith is part of your birth preparation, you may also choose to include prayer in your personal practice.
In fact, practicing while life continues around you is part of what makes this method so powerful. You learn to return to your breath, your body, your baby, and your Birth Vision™ even when there is movement, noise, distraction, or uncertainty around you. These experiences help train resilience and prepare you to remain connected to yourself as birth moves, shifts, and unfolds around you too.
This is realistic preparation for birth—not an attempt to control it.
Train intentionally. Surrender instinctively.
Many birth-preparation programs focus primarily on learning information about birth. Visualize My Birth helps you mentally rehearse how you want to use what you have learned.
You will not simply be told to breathe, push fear away, or remain calm. You will repeatedly practice returning to your Reset Breath™, using your Anchor Statements™, connecting with your baby, responding to your environment, working with your support team, and following your Birth Rhythm™ until those responses begin to feel familiar. You are not only creating a vision for your birth. You are intentionally becoming the woman you want to be within it.
The goal is not only to know what you want to do during birth. It is to practice accessing those responses when you need them.
Your Birth Vision™ is not a prediction, guarantee, or rigid plan. It is a way of preparing how you want to meet your birth—even when something changes.
Visualize My Birth helps you rehearse flexibility, regulation, communication, trust, and surrender. You are preparing to remain connected to yourself, your baby, and your intentions without believing that you must control every detail for your preparation to have value.
Your birth can change without everything you practiced being lost.
No. Your Birth Vision is personal to you. It can reflect your preferences, circumstances, birth setting, support team, and the care you may need or choose.
Visualize My Birth does not tell you that there is only one right way to give birth. It helps you become intentional about how you want to think, feel, respond, communicate, and remain connected to yourself and your baby throughout your experience.
You will create your personal Birth Vision™—a clear, intentional vision for how you want to think, feel, respond, and experience birth.
You will then bring that vision to life through your Vision Script™ and learn how to create a Voice Rehearsal™ by recording it in one of the most familiar and meaningful voices in your life: your own.
You are not only creating a vision for your birth. You are intentionally becoming the woman you want to be within it.
You are never left to figure this out by yourself. Each step builds upon the one before it.
No. Guided Mental Rehearsals are provided for you throughout the program, so you can begin practicing immediately.
You will also be guided through creating and recording your own Vision Script if you choose. Your recording does not need to sound polished or professional. Its power comes from hearing your own voice speaking the birth vision you intentionally created.
You can begin Visualize My Birth at any point during pregnancy. Starting earlier gives you more time to practice, but it is never about doing everything perfectly.
Guided Mental Rehearsal works through familiarity and repetition. Even small, consistent moments of practice can help you strengthen the responses you want available during birth.
Visualize My Birth was designed with real motherhood and real schedules in mind. Most core Guided Mental Rehearsals are approximately 11–17 minutes, and the bonus practices are shorter. Your personal Voice Rehearsal™ can be any length you choose—there is no required recording time.
You do not need to create a perfect daily ritual. You can listen while resting, walking, completing simple tasks, or preparing for bed. Consistency matters more than having ideal conditions.
Yes, if you want them to be. Your partner, doula, or another trusted support person can learn the language, preferences, environment, and responses that are part of your Birth Vision.
This helps your support team understand how to protect your space, communicate with you, and support your Birth Rhythm without taking over your experience.
You can also complete and use the program independently.
You do not need to force yourself to feel fearless before beginning. Visualize My Birth gives you space to notice the fears, expectations, previous experiences, and birth stories you may be carrying—without asking you to relive everything at once.
You will be guided in deciding what you want to carry forward and what no longer belongs in the story you are creating. The program also includes a gentle bonus practice to support the processing of previous birth experiences, generational trauma, stories, and fears.
Visualize My Birth is educational and supportive and is not a substitute for individualized mental-health or trauma care.
No program can guarantee exactly how birth will feel or unfold—but that does not mean mental rehearsal cannot have a powerful influence on how birth sensations are experienced.
Fear, tension, unfamiliarity, and anticipation can all affect the way the nervous system interprets sensation. Guided Mental Rehearsal™ helps make birth feel more familiar before it begins, allowing you to practice softening, regulating your nervous system, working with your body, and responding intentionally rather than immediately bracing against what you feel.
Many mothers who rehearse consistently describe birth as more manageable and less painful, and some experience very little pain or no pain at all. Kimberly’s own fourth birth was pain-free after she deepened the way she mentally rehearsed her birth—one of the experiences that ultimately shaped Visualize My Birth®.
VMB does not promise that every mother will have the same experience or suggest that discomfort means she practiced incorrectly. It gives you tools that may reduce fear, tension, and the perception of pain while supporting you in remaining connected to your body, your baby, and your Birth Rhythm™.
The purpose is not to guarantee perfection. It is to expand what may be possible through intentional preparation.
No. Visualize My Birth complements childbirth education and individualized care from your qualified healthcare providers.
The program focuses specifically on mental rehearsal, nervous-system preparation, personal vision, intentional responses, and surrender. It does not diagnose conditions, provide medical advice, or replace appropriate prenatal and birth care.
Visualize My Birth® (VMB) is the signature birth-rehearsal method for mothers who want to intentionally prepare how they will think, feel, respond, and experience birth.
For those who want more, there are two additional pathways:
VMB Complete
VMB Complete includes the entire Visualize My Birth program along with comprehensive education for pregnancy, birth, and early postpartum.
It is designed for the mother who wants to understand more than a pregnancy checklist. You will learn about pregnancy and birth physiology, your changing body, nourishment, movement, common choices and decisions, newborn considerations, postpartum preparation, and the questions you may want to bring to your providers.
VMB gives you the method. VMB Complete gives you the comprehensive education surrounding it.
VMB Certificate
VMB Certificate includes everything inside VMB Complete, along with advanced education, deeper discussions, case studies, and professional application of the VMB Method.
It is designed for doulas, midwives, nurses, lactation professionals, birth educators, therapists, wellness practitioners, and other qualified professionals who support women through pregnancy and birth. It is also available to mothers who want the deepest possible understanding of the method, pregnancy, birth, and postpartum.
Professionals learn how to appropriately support mothers using the VMB Method while preserving the integrity of the original program. The certificate does not permit practitioners to copy, reproduce, or independently reteach the proprietary method. Instead, practitioners support clients who experience Visualize My Birth through the original program.
A certificate is awarded upon successful completion.
Let’s talk!
Questions before you begin?
Contact Dr. Kimberly’s office at office@drkimberlyspair.com to learn more about Visualize My Birth® programs and certification; or the Fertility, Pregnancy, and Postpartum Support Package.